I am an Indian and I live in one such Joint family. Today I wanted to share my experiences having lived and been loved in a joint family since my birth.
My family consists of the three main men in the family, my father and his two brothers. Then it is their respective wives. Then each of the couple have two children. My eldest uncle and aunt have two sons. Then the other uncle has a son and a daughter and my father who is the youngest of the three brothers have me and my elder brother.
Being born in a joint family is one of the best things that can happen to you and I can tell this through my personal experience. I still remember all those festivals that we have celebrated, especially Diwali, the carom games, card games. These were games that EVERYONE in the family used to play. Then the yummy food prepared by all the three women of the family. Me and my other cousins used to play games like hide-and-seek, a game called as "tippy-tippy-tip-top" and I remember since I was the youngest of the lot I used to always be the scapegoat.
Since our flat used to be on the third floor, we used to harass the passer-by by calling out and hiding, during Holi throw water-filled balloons. We never felt the need for other children because we were always there for each other.
Now we have shifted to a bunglow, each family has their own space. But, even now, when we are older, have our own jobs and things to do, we all have the maximum fun when we get together during weekends or during festivals. Having the adults with us is an added bonus as it makes us feel more protected, loved and nurtured. Through all the experiences and anecdotes of the adults in our family, we have quite understood the worth of being in a HOME and not a house.
It saddens me that now-a-days the joint family system is becoming extinct and its place is being taken by nuclear families. It saddens me that not many would ever know the perks of growing up and BELONGING to a family because I don't really believe nuclear families offer that much attachment.